One of the most important things you can learn about your childbirth journey is that it belongs to you and God alone. It is for no one else to influence.
Often times we as people, and mothers/soon to be mothers listen to other people's stories during chit chat and we take it to heart what others say about birth. This is part of human nature. We relate to each other, empathize with each other and look up to one another. We trust each other and so the advice we hear from one another is often taken without consideration. It us up to us, as birthing women, with this huge responsibility to talk to God about all things we hear. About all advice we receive.
Your birth journey will be a story to tell as well. You will be much more grateful of your birth testimony if it is your own. If you choose to accept what other's have for you then you have allowed satan to take some of your journey from you. I am not saying that all advice is bad and that others have done things wrong... I am saying that in order for you to be 100% sure that their good idea is for you is to speak to the Lord about it. What others do might be the best for THEM but not for you.
What if you listened to someone's birth story and planned yours to be the same... and then everything went wrong? Often times when we push God's discernment out of events in our lives things do turn out negative and we suffer when we needed not.
Take the time to research everything you hear, get in your Bible, and talk to God about your birth often. Make your birth story your own and do not copy the customs or advice of the world.